Tuesday, February 16, 2010

A father's Influence

Lauren F. Clemons


Yasin is the son of Ahmad and his first wife, whom both Ahmad and Yasin aren't very fond of. The strained relationship between Yasin's mother and Ahmad began when they were first married and she proved to be a woman who was a little too free for his liking. He divorced her with the intent of getting back together with her later on, but she only wanted to come back if he would promise not to beat her (107). He grew so angry with her for not crawling back to him that he finalized their divorce and never looked back. Years later, Ahmad still grows angry just by hearing the mentioning of his first wife (106) which to me is strange because they've been separate for eleven years now. What could possibly still be the problem with Ahamd and his first wife.

Ahmad's a very arrogant man, who believes that women should just flock to him, no questions asked. He expected nothing less from his first wife, and made sure of that in their marriage. When he decided to divorce her, he only had the intent of carrying it out for a little while, but things didn't go as planned. He believed that she should come crawling back to him carrying no stipulations are conditions. When she did, he grew embarrassed. He thought he was high, mighty and powerful enough to get her back without having to work on himself. When he didn't get his way, he left her alone without even being able to keep a relationship with her son. To do this, just because she only agreed to come back if he wouldn't hit her strikes me as odd. If he really cared about her, then simply agreeing to keep his hands off her shouldn't have been an issue. But with Ahmad, being married is not for happiness, but it's because he wants to be a man. He wants to only allow his wife certain freedoms, and make sure she understands that he's the man. He couldn't allow her to come back into his house if she even thought she could tell him what to do. So he ran off simply because he coudn't have his way.

The passage that made me realize this about Ahmad is on page 106, when Mahfouz writes about Ahmad's anger he still has inside. The sheer embarrassment he felt could still be seen eleven years later. This passage is also when we begin to see how Ahmad's feelings about his first wife have rubbed off on his son. On page 107, Mahfouz writes, “The woman was at least forty, and Yasin was fully grown and aware of his ability to defend his honor from harm and humiliation,”. His mother's remarriage probably isn't necessarily an extremely controversial issue at this time since he also says a little before that sentence that this marriage is one of her more honorable mistakes. Mahfouz states that Yasin simply believes “this anticipated marriage seemed more outrageous than the previous ones and more calculated to cause pain” (107). He sincerely believes, like his father, that she's doing these things to dishonor them and embarrass them. Ahmad's beliefs have influenced Yasin to a point where he doesn't even seem to care at all about his mother. When he goes to visit her, he can't even morsel up any small act of love to show to her.

5 comments:

  1. Why do you think Ahmad is still bothered by this part of his past?

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  2. I think he's annoyed that his wife didn't come back to him when she wanted him to. He thrives off of being the man and making sure that he's in control and for him to lose that much control that easily truly bothered him. So, he feels a great amount of resentment towards her.

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  3. I think you bring up a very relevant issue in the novel. Mahfouz vividly shows the differences in the lives of married women and single women. Married women, such as Amina, have to tolerate their husbands beating them. They are locked up inside the house and can't leave at their own will. But unmarried women have the freedom of speaking to whomever they want, leaving their whenever they want, and don't have to tolerate abusive men. They seem more happy with their life. This may be because they have less to fear. They don't have to worry about doing something wrong and being scolded or beat by their husband.

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  4. Lauren, I completely agree on your views of Ahmad I believe we are on the same page. We both agree that he is not a man at all because of the way he treats Amina and influences his son to think of women in negative ways. Susan’s question got me thinking about how much this has affected Ahmad and I really think that this was a turning point in his life. I believe that this woman was the one that couldn’t be tamed by Ahmad and that truly made him feel like less of a man. I think Ahmad has kept this in his memory and in a sense it has affected his relationship with Amina because he may feel that if he acts nicely towards her she is going to rebel and he wont be able to control her. Ahmad uses fear to control what is his.

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  5. I completely agree with what Lauren and Javi have said. It seems that man feel like they have to punish women in a certain way to be able to control them. In a marriage neither the husband nor the wife should be beaten. Ahmad can not have a good relationship with Amina due to his past and therefore is not willing to make the same mistake he made before. Ahmad is not a man, what he is is a coward. Ahmad hides his through feelings by inflicting pain on others and trying to control them as well.

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